10 Phrases Every Small Group Leader Should Practice

Leading a small group is a hard job. It can be intimidating to take on that task. To help you deal with some tricky situations that may arise, I’ve listed 10 phrases you will want to practice. Every small group leader should have these phrases in their tool box. Don't let tough situations keep you from serving God.

 

1. I hate to interrupt but we need to move on…

When one member is in crisis, it is fine, and even important, to take some time to address the concern. But the Bible will speak to the crisis and getting to the study is important. Be sure not to let crises take over every week. Offer to talk to someone who is hurting after the study so as not to take away from the Bible study for the other women. If the crisis warrants intervention, enlist the help of a church leader.
 

2. Our denomination would probably have a different take on that…

Denominational differences can drag us way off track in Bible study. Point out that different churches look at that issue in different ways. This is often enough to acknowledge the comment and allow you to move on.

 

3. That illustrates our main point…

As you see a rabbit trail forming, listen for your first chance to draw it back to the question at hand. If you can’t see a connection, acknowledge it for what it is (Wow, we really got off topic there!) and move on.

 

4. There are some issues on which Bible-believers can disagree and this is one of them…

Don’t let an insignificant issue draw attention away from the gospel.

 

5. Our church would consider this to be a central truth…

Sometimes leaders will encounter a member who is struggling with basic theological ideas. Don’t confront this in front of the whole group. Enlist the help of your ministry supervisor or church leadership.

 

6. I’d love to hear how our pastor would answer that. I’ll send an email and let you know the answer next week...

It is okay not to have all the answers. I’ve found that in general, pastors love to answer theological questions!
 

7. Or…

You may have a member who gives an answer or interpretation that is wrong. A simple, well-timed “or” can allow you to offer another view without humiliating them.

 

8. I can see how the Bible would seem to be saying that, but in other scriptures it says…

Scripture agrees with itself. When there seems to be a conflict, we need to look further into the Bible. Always point to other scripture to help interpret passages.
 

9. Thank you for sharing that…

When someone shares something personal, they may feel vulnerable or ashamed. It is important to acknowledge that they have done something hard.
 

10. Thank you for being willing to shed tears, it will help the other women feel safe about opening up…

Shedding tears in front of others can be humiliating. Always check in with women who have cried and encourage them. Be willing to share a time when you lost it in Bible study.

 

Need a cheat sheet of these phrases? Check out the resource library. In the resource library, I have added a half sheet version of these phrases. Slip them into your Bible or Bible study book for easy access.

 

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